You’re single because you’re single. It’s not because you texted too much or too little or waited 33 minutes to respond because he took 23. It’s not because you met up with your ex that night at 5 a.m. that no one knows about, or because you kissed another boy after a date with a loser.
You’re not single because you spit food on that date or tripped
coming out the the movie theatre. You’re not single because you hurt
your first boyfriend really badly when you were 15 or because you have
yet, to this day, to apologize. It’s not because you were secretly
jealous when your friend got a boyfriend or that a guy you dated for two
months now has a really cute girlfriend and looks really happy. And
you’re happy for him. But still ill that he found someone before you.
You’re not single because you slept with your ex boyfriend. You’re
not single because half the world found out when you didn’t even want to
remember it yourself. You’re not single because you think the guy your
friend wants to hook you up with is ugly or not tall enough. It’s not
because you’re not willing to put up with someone who doesn’t brush
their teeth on a regular basis.
You’re not single because your standards are too high. Good for you
for having standards. It’s not because you didn’t like that really,
really good guy who wanted to take you on a date and you just weren’t
feeling it. And it’s not because you like to wear pajama pants as soon
as you get home and wash all the makeup off your face. You’re not single
because you didn’t learn enough from the past or would rather chill on a
Friday night with your blanket and a cold beer than shower, get ready,
and go out. You’re not single because something is wrong with you.
You are single because you are single. It’s really as simple as that.
You haven’t made the connection with another heart yet. You can get
dolled up, dress cute, cut your hair, dye your hair, tweeze your
eyebrows, put on lipstick and you may still. be. single. You can go out
to a bar hoping to meet the love of your life and not find a damn one in
the place attractive. And it’s going to remain that way until it’s time
for you to find one. Stop hoping for it. Start living the life that you
do have instead of wishing for things that you don’t have. There will
come a time you’ll meet a boy and you’ll have to give up some of this
single freedom you currently have. Start being more thankful. Start
doing that now.
I thought this was a very nice article to dedicate to all my amazing single friends (and to myself) who are great just the way they are!
Thanks to Thought Catalog for this.